MESSAGE OF THE MOMENT:
Woman of the Month: Julia Miles, Hampshire, UK
“You are phenomenal…”
For as long as I can remember I have been denying what I am because I thought people would think I was strange. I had and still have extraordinary insight, knowing and perception – I ‘see’ things but I kept it to myself as much as I could.
I also didn’t have a great deal of confidence in myself as a woman and didn’t have a very good self-image. I underestimated myself. I ‘saw’ a fat woman in the mirror, I hated shopping to buy clothes.
I have tried many times to change this for myself, I think it didn’t work because I was ‘looking’ for it to be difficult!
But this has all changed now - I know who I am, I’m proud of who I am, I live who I am, I ‘be’ who I am – and it’s easy!!! And all that time I’d thought it had to be / would be difficult – and it’s not – it’s easy!
What helped me change what I believed about myself? Oddly enough it all began on a new easy woman weekend when I was asked to do a collage. I saw clearly for the first time just how differently I look at time and how differently I tackle the things I have to do, and I understood why I do it so differently. It has had a major, major impact on me – I am becoming more aware all the time of how this can be beneficial to me and others and the potential that it may hold and it excites me. After this ‘breakthrough’, once I realised how easy it all is, further ‘breakthroughs’ just flowed. I realised that I can ‘use’ my gifts to help others.
I know now that I am an amazing woman with phenomenal ‘gifts’ to share. I’m proud of me – when I walk around now it is as a truly sensuous woman who is at one with who she is and what she is and it feels fantastic!
At first I used to ‘look’ for my energy and wonder where it was, but now I know that I am the energy - it’s me, it’s who I am. The single most important step I have taken is to allow myself the time to really look at me and be who I am.
I find difficulty in putting into words the impact this has had on my life - it is like coming home, it is like having a light turned on, it is about feeling free and huge, it is awesome, it is easy, it is where I always want to be.
I feel at one with myself now.
I would like to say to the women reading this ‘You are phenomenal, you have it all, even if you don’t realise it – take time for yourself, let yourself just ‘be’ and don’t look for it to be hard because its not, its easy. Believe in yourself.’
I also just had to share this story about how my life has changed:
Last week my husband and I were going to a big ‘do’ – in the past this would have sent me into a frenzy of ‘what am I going to wear?’ ‘will I be the oldest/fattest woman there?’ etc. Not this time. I donned my black dress, quite a plain one really but made of a lovely jersey material that hangs easily and moves with you and I did my hair and makeup the same as ever.
Then we arrived. The ‘me’ that I am now walked into that room. I walked in, a truly sensuous woman, at one with herself and happy with her life. It showed. Boy how it showed. People flocked around as if drawn by a magnet (my energy!!), several men actually chatted me up!
I sparkled. I shone and my husband (whom I adore) shone by my side too. We were the stars of the evening. In fact one lady said to me ‘I wish I could have a pint of what you’re on’ – actually, I didn’t drink any alcohol all night, I didn’t feel like it!
It was a wonderful evening and when we arrived home my husband, who is not a man of many words said ‘you were brilliant tonight, I love you so much’! And do you know the next day when I thought about it I was the oldest, fattest woman there - but it didn’t matter. It really didn’t. You see I have something far bigger and huger and vaster and more marvellous - I have me and know now how wonderful I am.
-- Julia Miles, Hampshire, UK
Website: www.lifecoach-begintobelieve.com
For as long as I can remember I have been denying what I am because I thought people would think I was strange. I had and still have extraordinary insight, knowing and perception – I ‘see’ things but I kept it to myself as much as I could.
I also didn’t have a great deal of confidence in myself as a woman and didn’t have a very good self-image. I underestimated myself. I ‘saw’ a fat woman in the mirror, I hated shopping to buy clothes.
I have tried many times to change this for myself, I think it didn’t work because I was ‘looking’ for it to be difficult!
But this has all changed now - I know who I am, I’m proud of who I am, I live who I am, I ‘be’ who I am – and it’s easy!!! And all that time I’d thought it had to be / would be difficult – and it’s not – it’s easy!
What helped me change what I believed about myself? Oddly enough it all began on a new easy woman weekend when I was asked to do a collage. I saw clearly for the first time just how differently I look at time and how differently I tackle the things I have to do, and I understood why I do it so differently. It has had a major, major impact on me – I am becoming more aware all the time of how this can be beneficial to me and others and the potential that it may hold and it excites me. After this ‘breakthrough’, once I realised how easy it all is, further ‘breakthroughs’ just flowed. I realised that I can ‘use’ my gifts to help others.
I know now that I am an amazing woman with phenomenal ‘gifts’ to share. I’m proud of me – when I walk around now it is as a truly sensuous woman who is at one with who she is and what she is and it feels fantastic!
At first I used to ‘look’ for my energy and wonder where it was, but now I know that I am the energy - it’s me, it’s who I am. The single most important step I have taken is to allow myself the time to really look at me and be who I am.
I find difficulty in putting into words the impact this has had on my life - it is like coming home, it is like having a light turned on, it is about feeling free and huge, it is awesome, it is easy, it is where I always want to be.
I feel at one with myself now.
I would like to say to the women reading this ‘You are phenomenal, you have it all, even if you don’t realise it – take time for yourself, let yourself just ‘be’ and don’t look for it to be hard because its not, its easy. Believe in yourself.’
I also just had to share this story about how my life has changed:
Last week my husband and I were going to a big ‘do’ – in the past this would have sent me into a frenzy of ‘what am I going to wear?’ ‘will I be the oldest/fattest woman there?’ etc. Not this time. I donned my black dress, quite a plain one really but made of a lovely jersey material that hangs easily and moves with you and I did my hair and makeup the same as ever.
Then we arrived. The ‘me’ that I am now walked into that room. I walked in, a truly sensuous woman, at one with herself and happy with her life. It showed. Boy how it showed. People flocked around as if drawn by a magnet (my energy!!), several men actually chatted me up!
I sparkled. I shone and my husband (whom I adore) shone by my side too. We were the stars of the evening. In fact one lady said to me ‘I wish I could have a pint of what you’re on’ – actually, I didn’t drink any alcohol all night, I didn’t feel like it!
It was a wonderful evening and when we arrived home my husband, who is not a man of many words said ‘you were brilliant tonight, I love you so much’! And do you know the next day when I thought about it I was the oldest, fattest woman there - but it didn’t matter. It really didn’t. You see I have something far bigger and huger and vaster and more marvellous - I have me and know now how wonderful I am.
-- Julia Miles, Hampshire, UK
Website: www.lifecoach-begintobelieve.com